Three Ways to Overcome Unworthiness

How to Overcome Unworthiness in Three Simple Steps

ACCORDING TO THE Merriam-Webster dictionary, the word unworthy means lacking in excellence or value, poorworthless, dishonorable and undeserving. Many of us have considered ourselves unworthy our entire lives. No matter how hard we try to do right and to get it right, we seem to come up short. Regardless of putting forth our best effort, there is always some nagging voice in our head saying it’s not enough.


What if you are not nearly as screwed up as you think you are? What if you are actually far greater than you’ve yet acknowledged? The problem with the concept of right and wrong, good and bad, worthy and unworthy, is it forces you to judge, and that ultimately leads to you judging you. That’s exactly what unworthy is. A word, a concept, that puts you into the judgment of you, which ultimately destroys you and your life.


Something else is possible. You don’t have to live your life with a sense of being unworthy. You can actually choose to be you, without any judgment, and here are my top 3 tips on how:


  1. Start a Gratitude Journal


What we acknowledge grows bigger. When you start to focus on the things that you are grateful for, more of those things show up, so start practicing gratitude for you. Every day, write down 2 – 3 things that you are grateful for about you. This might be tricky at first as most of us have spent our lives judging ourselves. Do it anyway! Start with something small if you have to and then keep going. You are a gift and a contribution to the planet. Time to acknowledge it.


  1. It’s All Just Choice


People tend to get stuck in the idea of being unworthy when they look at the choices they have made in their lives. They buy into the idea that there are good choices and bad choices, and then judge themselves for the choices they have decided are bad. Choice is just choice. Every choice you make creates something. Every choice you make allows you to be more aware. If you would stop looking at your choices from the place of judging them, you can simply see what each choice creates and make the choices that create what you actually desire.


If you find that you judge you and your choices, try this. Imagine you have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life. What do you choose? That lifetime is over. You have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life. What do you choose? If you practice this, you will find that choosing becomes easier and judging goes away. If a choice is only good for 10 seconds, how can it be good or bad? It can’t. It’s just a choice.


  1. Change Your Mind


Thoughts, feelings and emotions can change. If you are stuck in the idea that you are unworthy and undeserving, you don’t have to stay there. Every time you have a negative thought about you, stop and say, “Interesting point of view. I have that point of view.” Say it a few times. What starts to happen is that all of the places where you are judging you, all of the places where you are certain you are not good enough, become simply interesting points of view rather than truth. And, when something is just interesting, it can be changed.


Regardless of what others have said about you, regardless of what you believe about you, you are far greater than you know. It’s time for you to know it! Look for the things about you that you are grateful for. Practice choosing without judgment. Let go of the negative points of view that you have of yourself. Acknowledge the gift of you which makes the world a greater place.



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