Stop Texting, Start Talking: The Key to Better Relationships

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Want to Be Happier and Have More Meaningful Relationships?  Start Talking!
By Joel Schwartz, Parlor.me

The next time you’re out in a public place, whether at the grocery
store, a baseball game or seeing a play, take a look around and note
how many people have their noses buried in their smartphone. We think
nothing of the ping from a text message, but the sound of a ringing
phone is almost alarming these days. We’ve become programmed to
communicate in short snippets, never fully sharing a story from
beginning to end with all the details. In a world where we’re so
overly connected with texting, email, blogs, Skype, Facebook, Twitter,
and more, it’s amazing how disconnected we really are as a society. We
have so many forms of communication at our disposal, yet it’s exactly
those mediums that often prevent us from having a real, meaningful
conversation.

A recent New York Times article stated, “If you don’t regularly
exercise your ability to connect face-to-face, you’ll eventually find
yourself lacking some of the basic biological capacity to do so.” When
we’re not having real life conversations with people, we are lacking
key parts of a communication and aren’t able to pick up on things such
as sensing a sense of approval or disapproval and it’s easy to
misunderstand what is being communicated as a result of not hearing
inflections in someone’s voice that let us know how the message is
meant to be interpreted. We can all attest to misinterpreting a text
message or email and wondering for days what the person really meant,
but we don’t always ask to clear it up.

When was the last time you sat down to have a real conversation,
whether on the phone or physically together, with a good friend or
family member? We can all use the excuse we are too busy and don’t
have time, but it is a matter of setting priorities. We live in a busy
world. But as humans it is necessary for us to connect with others on
a more intimate level—it does us good and honestly feels good. Real
conversations also build your capacity to empathize with others, as
well as, improve your overall health because you feel more connected
to other human beings and to the world in general. Real communication
is important for building all kinds of relationships, both
professional and personal.

The time is now to get inspired to have a deeper conversation of your
own with someone that you care about. Yes, a real phone conversation
or sit down conversation over coffee takes time out of our already
over scheduled calendars, but you’ll walk away with improved, closer
relationships that are worth the investment. Having a meaningful phone
or in person conversation on a regular basis will tap more deeply into
your emotional side and enrich your life. Technology is great and
holds an important place in our life, but use it to supplement not
replace a real conversation. Now go and build up your tribe!

About Joel Schwartz:
Joel Schwartz is the founder of Parlor.me—the first and only Social
Talking Network. Parlor connects people that share the same interests,
want to talk about the same topic, and do so in a one-on-one private
conversation.  It’s a great place to connect with friends and make new
ones!

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