Depression. Anxiety. Suicide. Open the newspaper, look online, talk to the people you know. These things are on the rise. You don’t have to go far to find someone who struggles with thoughts and feelings of despair, weariness, and exhaustion. Or maybe you are one of them? I know. I was one of them.
For a long time, every day I woke up with so much sadness and depression that I didn’t know how to make it through the day. Seventeen years ago it was so severe that I wanted to kill myself. I even set the day. Today, here I am, with a love and lust for living. I wake up every morning so grateful to be alive. My life is an adventure and every day keeps getting even better.
No matter who you are, no matter what your story is, no matter how impossible happiness feels, you are not alone and it is possible to beat the blues. It is possible to have a joyous life. All it takes are a few simple choices.
Here are my top 3 tips on how to beat the blues naturally:
- Start every day by asking questions
The next time you wake up with thoughts of depression, rather than spiraling down into those all-too-familiar feelings, ask a question. Asking questions can empower you to change anything.
Here are some questions you can ask:
- What can I be or do different today to move beyond this depression?
- How does it get any better than this?
- Universe, will you please show me something beautiful today?
- What else is possible here that I’ve never considered?
One of the problems with depression and sadness is that we don’t see any other options. When you ask a question, even a simple one such as, “What else is possible here that I’ve never considered?” you open the door to new possibilities opening up that you couldn’t see before.
- Stop trying to fix you
When you feel depressed, when you have thoughts of ending your life, when you can’t seem to find that happy feeling no matter how hard you try, often you decide that there is something wrong with you, and you start desperately trying to fix it. What if there’s nothing wrong with you? What if you don’t need to be fixed?
We spend so much time judging ourselves and our bodies, and we are so used to believing that we are wrong, wrong, wrong. Would you be willing to let that go? Would you be willing to consider that you’re not nearly as messed up as you’ve decided you are? Try asking this question every day, “What’s right about me that I’m not getting?”
I wonder how much lighter you would feel if you weren’t in constant judgment of yourself?
- Don’t take on other people’s stuff
The thing that changed my life dramatically from wanting to die to living happily is a little question I heard: “Who does this belong to?” We are all very aware of the people around us. If we have people around us that are depressed, we often feel depressed and think that we are when in reality, we are just aware of others.
When you notice feelings of depression or loneliness, stop and ask, “Who does this belong to?” You may soon discover that the depression that you think is yours isn’t. This can change everything. It did for me.
Please know, regardless of how difficult things seem, something else is possible. You can beat the blues. You can wake up in the morning happy. Start by recognizing that there is nothing wrong with you. Ask questions. Stop taking on other people’s stuff. Choose these things daily and a whole new world will begin to open up for you.