Beyond Sex: Learning How to Love the Soul
By Pam Levin
Humans are sexual beings. Most of us need, want and love to be sexual, right? Its innate. In fact, sex is part of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Its one of our most basic biological and physiological needs.
But when it comes to love, falling in love, being in love, there’s a glitch for some of us.
Dont fall in love with SEX, fall in love with SOUL. (Tweetable!) Meaning..don’t fall in love with him/her for the great sex, fall in love because you connect with his/her soul.
Love is blind they say. Because when we fall in love, we are hit (like a snowstorm) with a barrage of hormones that are beautiful but can displace us (temporarily) from reality. So if you and your partner have amazing sex/physical intimacy and you are believing this ALONE will sustain your relationship, think again. That’s a myth. Great, intimate, bonding, liberating sex is super cool, but NOT always cool to fall in love with . A deep connection requires you to fall in love with his/her soul.
And how does THAT work? How exactly do you fall in love with someone’s soul?
Its not a field of study. There is no online course here. Connecting with another’s soul is very special and oftentimes rare. It’s not really something you can control. It just happens or it doesn’t. But ahhhh….when it does, that soulful connection is unyielding. It is magnificent in and of itself. It can drive you crazy or bring you to the heights of bliss…or both. As daunting as it can be, falling in love with (someone’s) soul is just about the very best you can get in this lifetime.
I believe we only get one (or maybe two, if we’re lucky) opportunities to fall in love with someone so deeply…a SOUL connection. We’re talking about a soulful connective energy that speaks its own language–a love so darn deep that sometimes all you need to do is to look at each other to understand what the other is thinking/feeling. And if he is not physically nearby, all you need to do is just think of him. Souls know souls. They are super good at this. They have evolved over many lifetimes. Your soul knows even better than you and is constantly working to guide you to help you grow, evolve, and live out this lifetime in the best possible way. So never discredit the soul. It will outlive your physical body and continue to evolve.
The soulful love is one of the highest orders of love between humans. Its a chance for your soul to attain higher growth and enlightenment. The soul never dies. It only evolves. And when it matches up with another soul at its energy level of intelligence, goodness, understanding, compassion, kindness and love, it is like two inseparable magnets; the energy between them is so strong, that distance, misunderstandings, mistakes and misdoings can’t break their bond. The souls know each other well. They completely understand.
So while you may be willing to burn the sexual fire, kindle that fire with a soul which deserves your awesomeness. Fall in love with the soul that will always call to you even when the cell phone lines experience problems or the internet goes down. That’s the soul which reaches out to you no matter what. That’s the soul to embrace, that’s the soul to fall in love with, forever.
And if you haven’t yet found this soul to love, open your heart to possibilities. He could be right around the corner just waiting for you to accidentally bump into; she could be at the grocery checkout counter…who knows? Only your soul knows for sure! 😉
Keep Living Life Passionately,